Redefining Family

A Birthmother’s Path to Wholeness

Pregnant at seventeen, she makes an adoption plan. 

What will happen to her child? 

What will happen to her? 

Alycea is determined to create a better life for her baby and for herself. The only path she can see is placing her baby for adoption. In an industry stacked against birthparents, she must fight for her rights and her child’s best interest. When the baby is born, Alycea breaks her own heart to spare her daughter’s. But is the sacrifice worth it? Will her daughter be happier and healthier with her new family? And will Alycea ever be okay? 

Twenty years of a birthmother’s life are exposed in this bare-bones memoir of open adoption. It will break your heart, then heal it, with a new perspective on how we define family. 

The prices are the same at all U.S. stores: $14.99 for the paperback, $4.99 for the ebook. Audiobook prices vary a little ($7.99 – $14.99). Place your order today.

“Beautifully written. A raw, honest journey of heartache and hope.”  

Early reviews of Redefining Family

“I’ve never read a book that I could connect so well to. Definitely brought tears to my eyes a few times.”

A Birthmother

“This story is necessary in terms of bringing the beauty and agony of adoption out of the shadows.”

Download the Exclusive Photos and FAQs

As promised in the end of Redefining Family, there’s more. You can download photos of our family, then and now, right here.


When I had Katarina in 2000, there were some resources available, but I didn’t find them. The good news is there are even more options today. 

Birthparent Resources

Caring for Kids, Inc. 

Birthmother weekend retreats, meetups, and online support.

On Your Feet Foundation

Birthparent coaching, weekend retreats, grants for counseling, education and tuition assistance, emergency rent assistance, and outreach.

Birthmother Thoughts

A great website from a birthmother with a lot of info and support, especially if you’re considering adoption. Her words strike me as close to non-agenda as you can get. Real answers to real questions from someone who is not financed by adoptions, nor hateful of the adoption industry. Someone in the middle. 

Adoptee Resources

Adoptee Reading

Every adoptee-authored book and book recommended by adoptees. 

Adoptees On Podcast

A podcast for adoptees to talk about their experiences. 

Do you know of resources you think I should add?

A Note for Birthparents

The times I most needed a book like this, I didn’t have $5 to spend on it. If you’re a birthparent or are considering placement, contact me. I’ll send you a link for a free ebook version that can be read on Kindle or any ebook app.

2 thoughts on “Redefining Family

  1. This is an amazing, beautifully written, emotionally raw adoption expierence. I too placed my son just a year after you. There was not many resources for us and “open adoption” was uncharted waters. Our stories have very different endings, not endings but paths. Our love, motivation, and emotions; exactly the same. Thank you for sharing and providing a light where so many of us remain in the darkness.


    1. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts, Kristina! I am happy the book is resonating with other birthmoms and adding words to an experience so rarely spoken of.


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